“If you want to lift yourself up, lift someone else” Booker T. Washington.
Too often we focus on what we don’t want or like about other people, rather than what we do love and appreciate about them.
The law of attraction explains that what we focus on is what we receive – hence why it is so well known that gratitude creates abundance.
What we project onto others actually reflects back onto ourselves. Gabrielle Bernstein gives a great illustration of this in her book May Cause Miracles –
“if you find yourself judging others for being overweight, it’s likely you have issues with your own weight or appearance. Or you may find that in your mind you attack people who are in happy relationships. It’s possible this attack is merely a reflection of your own desire to have that type of romantic love. When you place judgement or blame on or attack others, there is often an unconscious sense of lack stemming from within you”.
What Gabrielle is suggesting can be a hard pill to swallow, but if you are very honest with yourself you may find yourself agreeing with this concept.
I often get caught up in telling or talking about what people are lacking (my husband will be madly nodding his head when he reads this) instead of focusing on all their wonderful qualities. So today for my period of Quiet Quest I will be writing thank you letters to various people in my life thanking them for their inspiration and support.
Of course I was very excited to have an excuse to go splurge in more stationary and hopefully those receiving their letters will enjoy it too!